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I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

12 Jan

ghost-crab_w725_h476Have you ever heard of the Crab Theory? It’s pretty interesting. Here it goes: if you place one crab in a pot, it will easily crawl out, but if you put multiple crabs in a pot, they will pull anyone down who tries to escape to ensure they all meet the same fate.

There are many theories on the why: jealousy, resentment, equal the playing field, feel better about themselves… kinda sounds like human nature, huh? Have you ever attempted to make a positive change, like cutting down on cookie consumption, only to have your spouse restock the cookie stash (after you asked him/her not to) or your best friend telling you you’re “no fun” since you don’t want to go to the coffee shop that sells your favorite cookies? Yep, that sucks and makes doing something good for yourself feel like a drag.

Social support is critical when making positive change. So until your new change has become a habit, try spending a bit more time with people who build you up and a little less time with those that tear you down. While you build your new power posse (the friends and family that will go on a walk with you and enjoy eating healthier foods), try communicating the importance of why you are changing to your other friends and family and how much you’d appreciate their support. You can even assure them that while you want to be healthier for your grandkids, you will not guilt or pressure them to do the same. Who knows, if they don’t feel judged or feel scared that you’ll leave them behind, they may even warm up to ditching those cookies too.

The Hero’s Journey

8 Jul
The Avengers

The Avengers

I love superhero movies…. and it isn’t because of the spandex (although I won’t complain). It’s the simple fact that these superheroes choose compassion despite their hardships.

 

… and it’s not because they’re pure goodness . They are remarkably human–minus the genius gizmos, gamma ray goodness and demigod status, of course. They make mistakes and face a ton of setbacks along the way. They have a shadow side that doesn’t always act in the best interests of others (well hello Mr. Dark Knight!). There truly is no black and white or good versus evil in my opinion… and I find this refreshing and hopeful.

 

You see, we can learn a lot from superheroes. We can learn to feel our emotions fully and channel them towards the greater good. We can learn to embrace our shadows because therein lies our creativity. And we know that bottling up anger turns us into big green creatures of destruction. True story.

 

So if your brokenhearted, feel the sadness. Grieve the loss, recognize your role in the relationship ending and channel that heartache into volunteering at Habitat for Humanity where you meet the cool volunteer plumber whose best friend just happens to be the future love of your life. Yeah, life really is that generous… if we let it be.

 

Embrace every emotion. Act with compassion. Enjoy the journey.

What Are You Going to Choose?

9 Jun

Do you ever feel like you’re a deflating balloon? Not a slow deflate, but a just-let-go-of-a-fully-blown-balloon-spinning-out-of-control-and-helplessly-flailing-about sort of deflating balloon? Yeah, me too. But there is one key word that simply isn’t true: we aren’t helpless.

 

I tend to forget that. Maybe you do too. It is so easy to let the negative self talk win. It is so easy to believe we aren’t good enough, that we have nothing valuable to share. In fact, I just spent this entire last week binge watching three Jane Austin movies and feeling sick to my stomach because I’m so afraid to fail at something I really want to do. Something I really believe in.

 

It is scary to put ourselves out there… but far scarier to never try. And the thought of never trying and therefore never knowing terrifies me.

 

We have a say in our life. We have every right to feel deflated, upset, scared, disappointed, angry… and we have every right to feel excited, joyful, loving and happy.

 

So, what are you going to choose? Are you going to helplessly flail about as though you have no choice? Or are you going to acknowledge you’re deflating, give your balloon a few deep breaths and enjoy floating among the stars?

 

I would love to hear from you in the comments below. What helps or inspires you to keep moving forward during times of self-doubt?

Let Go… and Make Room for More!

21 Apr
Good-bye Fancy Pants

Good-bye Fancy Pants

Confession time. I have been holding on to a pair of jeans for far too long that are far too small for me. It’s like watching a Great Dane trying to fit into a Chihuahua’s sweater–it ain’t happening! And my reasoning for holding onto these jeans is even sillier: I don’t want to get rid of them because I invested a lot of money in them… and I dread shopping for jeans. Please join me in playing my tiny violin. Thankfully I called myself out on my own BS and will bequeath them to another fashionable soul because my booty cannot squeeze into them… nor do I want it to…

 

I purchased those jeans after I lost quite a bit of weight (gluten intolerance and adrenal fatigue suck) due to a stressful chapter in my life. That chapter is finished and so are these jeans.

 

It can be scary to let go, to admit that something or someone isn’t working for us. When we let go of negative energy, we free ourselves to receive so many positive blessings. We literally make room for opportunities we want to attract. Every Fall and Spring when I go through my entire apartment one room at a time and clear out everything I don’t need, I end up attracting new clients, have a surge of creative ideas and have more time and energy for the people and hobbies I love. True story.

 

What are you holding on to? What clothing, appliances, relationships, furniture, food, thoughts are holding you back from moving forward and reaching your goals? What is one action step you can take today to let go and make room for more?

Rise Up!

13 Apr

IMG_1902As a wellness writer, I feel like I should be giving you stellar recipe ideas for Passover and Easter. Alas, I am not. *sigh* Wipe those hungry tears away, because I am going to rock your world–personal progress? Yes please!–and I’m sharing this amazing Raw Brownie recipe with you from My New Roots. Soooo…. healthy Passover and Easter dessert recipe too? I got nothing but love for you, baby!

 

Before I rock your world, we need to climb into our Tardis and revisit the meaning of these holidays. (Total Squirrel Moment: time traveling tends to use phone booths a la Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure and Dr. Who. Interesting.) So here are my Religious Cliff Notes…

Christian: Easter is about the resurrection of Jesus.

Jewish: Passover is about the Israelites liberation from slavery.

 

See the theme? Regardless of what you believe, this time of year is about rising up. So, ya know that story you’ve been holding on to? That one about your mean ex which leads you to believe you are unloveable and that every relationship you do begin will end in lonely failure. Or that story about why you can’t be healthy, because your metabolism is slow and you just don’t have the time to exercise or cook. Or how about that story that begins with “I’m not [good enough, smart enough, wealthy enough…].” Think of what your story (or stories) is and write it down on a square of toilet paper (use a separate square for each story).

 

Now flush that crap down the toilet, because you are not your story! You are so much more. Rise up, take your power back and move forward!

 

What is one simple action you can do today to reclaim your power? Please share your comments below, because your simple action step may just be the inspiration someone else needs.